Team

Who you pair yourself with in life matters! I can only speak from the introvert side but I am sure this covers all people.

My husband is the ultimate pair for me! Everyone loves him, I am not always most popular. He is so great at welcoming people in our home, I like to cook. He tells me, go to that great coffee time with strangers, I say stay away from strangers. He wakes up and chooses to love this girl who hates talking on the phone and I wake up and choose to love that boy who constantly checks his phone to see if anyone has called.

Your pair is important. He loves me for who I am and cheers me along to becoming a better person. We laugh, cry, sing, and scream together for bad or good. Not always do I show my best to him. He usually gets the left overs from the day and my need for alone time comes most nights earlier than he would like...He loves me all the same. I don't always see his best, I love him all the more. We get to be real with each other but learn daily how love isn't rude, it is kind. Love isn't touchy feely all the time...it is hard work with lots of hard conversations. It is not for sissies!

I see too often people get married and then give up or have expectations about how love was supposed to look. They should have take the time while dating to see if this person would be your perfect pair. In the middle of the night when one child is vomiting, and another wakes up with poop from one end to the other, is this the person you want to be paired with? When you want a family so bad you ache but another month passes with a negative test, is this the person you want to be paired with? When your job is no more and food is running out, is this the person you want to be paired with? When personal struggles come into the picture for one of you...is this the person you want to be paired with? Ask more questions, and when you decide...LOVE HARD! It will rarely feel lovey, but laughter and team work will get you through most anything.

Kids need us. They need us to be a team. We need to be a pair and step up to the plate everyday. Make your relationship roots run deep with traditions and stories, talk about them often...make a wise decision before you marry and then teach your kids how to do the same thing.

Your pair will make or break you, be wise, not swept away.